Monday, May 28, 2012

Guest Blogger: Kyla Roma

I'm so excited to introduce you to Kyla Roma today.  I started reading her story on her blog a few years ago and its been so cool to watch her grow and really live her dreams.  We connected through her blog (I sponsored in 2010, which is a great way to get to know other bloggers better) and have kept in contact through the years.  Kyla is inspiring and authentic and a joy to know.  I am so happy she was able to share her thoughts on Celebrating the Everyday.  She's compiled a list of 5 things that help her, and maybe they'll be just what you needed to hear.  Thanks Kyla! 
Celebrating the everyday is a big part of how I live my life. To me it means finding joy in small things, being aware of my surroundings, not being too "in my head", and appreciating the moments in-between the big life events instead of taking them for granted and always moving on to the next thing.

I'm a "getting down to brass tacks" kind of girl at heart though, so this is how I take those ideas and put them into action:

1. Remember to stay present
I'm a planner, a scheduler, and a worrier but if I let my mind wander to the past or the future all the time, I end up missing what's happening in the moment. When I'm working I try to remind myself to come back to the present every time I glance at the rings on my fingers, and at home I remind myself to stay with the moment when I see my little dogs. Having visual queues has been a great help, and I find that as I've been practicing this my days seem longer, I'm more relaxed and I'm less stressed.

2. Allow for silliness, sleepiness, sadness and wonder
Working for myself means that I always have multiple timelines on multiple projects up in the air, and sometimes I get carried away with scheduling my time. Remembering that I need down time in the evenings and on the weekends allows room for my life, and for me to be spontaneous, give myself the time I need to process difficult things that happen, take naps, and daydream. Giving myself that space makes me a better designer, business owner, friend and wife!

3. Keep a camera close by
For a long time I was great at this, but over the past year I've been out of this habit and only recently realized how much I miss it! When I have my camera nearby I look at things a little differently because I'm on the look out for beauty. It helps me to approach my life with gratitude and to recognize the power of simple things, like seeing wild rabbits in my neighbourhood while walking the dogs in the morning, to make me happy! If everyday life can make me happy, I feel like I must be setting myself up for a meaningful, beautiful life.

4. Make meal time sacred
While I love to bake, I've never been a big cook but this year I've been trying to change that. By making mealtimes something that I look forward to, from the planning & prep to the dishes, I've been able to add more times into the day that I'm focused on taking care of myself in a really tangible (delicious!!) way. I eat a number of small meals every day, and each one holds possibility for creative flavours to mingle, and healthy habits to become more a part of my life. It also means there's something to look forward to every few hours! You can't beat that.

5. Stop apologizing & start celebrating
For a long time in my life, I wasted a lot of time agonizing about things I didn't like about myself and worrying about what was going to happen next. While my worrying and anxiety was eventually diagnosed as an anxiety disorder, so many women struggle with similar feelings. Being trapped in a negative thought cycle, or by your worries, is terrible, but being aware of the negative thoughts you have and beliefs that you hold is a powerful step toward letting them go! In the past few years I've stopped apologizing for myself & fixating on changing things about me and have started celebrating myself and adopting positive habits instead. I'm loving the quirky parts of myself better than I have in a long time, and it makes every day so much more fun.

Thank you for having me, Shaina! I hope that these ideas are helpful and that they bring a little every day happiness into your readers lives :)
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17 comments:

  1. I find myself looking at the world much more positively when I have my camera with me too. Thanks for sharing!

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  2. Gorgeous post, Kyla! You have been an inspiration for me, for quite a while now and I've loved our e-mail chats. <3

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  3. I agree about bringing my camera along too! Sometimes I go on picture-missions just around our house. I also love taking walks with my toddler. It forces me to see things at her level and walk at her pace. We usually both come back refreshed.

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  4. I'm a new follower and loving this blog!!

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    1. Thanks so much! Welcome Amanda. :)

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  5. What a lovely post! I'm going to stop feeling guilty about taking time out of my day to take a nap or daydream. You're right, it really does help to recharge.

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  6. Thanks so much for having me, Shaina! This was such a fun thing to be a part of :)

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  7. i really enjoy your blog! they are beautiful and well designed! love your creativity and style.

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  8. That last note really rings true with me. I've been struggling with this kind of anxiety for some time now and I've just started to realize it doesn't have to be that way. I'm going to take a cue from you and try to keep celebrating instead of worrying! Thanks!

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  9. So happy I found you through Kyla's blog! Your layout is incredibly pretty and your writing is perfect :) nice to meet you!

    Kate xo
    www.wake-up-lovely.com

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    1. So nice to meet you too Kate! Thanks for visiting and leaving a comment. :)

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  10. Great post, Kyla! What you're saying is so important to life. And cupcakes too :D

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  11. The point about the camera is so true, when you know you've got it to hand you do start to see more details and beauty, even if it's easy to become a bit too interested sometimes! I've noticed that in taking my camera with me more I regret it more when I forget it. Stopping apologising, very good point, too.

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  12. very wise words from kyla! :)

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